Up to October 17

Have one goal and that is to be better than yesterday.

Focus on conversion to dates and sex. Not on amount of numbers collected.

Lessons up to October 17:

• Always remember eye contact and smile when I approach.
• Talk slow like Bob Marley, and add some emotion.
• Express myself. Don't be stiff. 
• I need to focus on emotions. Currently I focus on what to say to the girl more than trying to have fun myself. 
• Have positive energy like the guy giving out high 5s. 
• Think about girls as sexual creatures (Lady Marmalade song). 
• Don't lean in. Stand up straight - think about a string on top of head.
• Be happy when dancing. Use the maracas hand move and smile. 
• When dancing, have fun first, Lightly grab girls hand. Ask can I dance with you?
• Buy a pendant to wear
• Agreeing too much. Sometimes disagree with her. What do you mean?
• Never give a girl power who has rejected you

Lessons from sales

• Be unfazed, keep going to the next lead, keep a positive attitude
• Follow a system (script)
• Keep a low, slow voice
• There are many new leads each day
• The quality of the leads matters (the setting where you meet the girl, how you are connected to her)

Saturday 3 October - Tuesday 7 October

I have no problems getting numbers. I can get around 4 numbers a day and have been doing so lately.

The problem is the conversion. There is so much time spent converting a number into a date and something more.

I had a date on Sunday but didn't feel it going anywhere. The girl didn't show enough interest and in turn, I was less interested. I will still try to pursue it further but I am not sure whether anything will come out of it.

A girl kissed me on the lips after I was chatting with her and her friend. I am not sure whether it was intentional. However, I wasn't interested in her.

Lessons:

• I want to qualify a girl for sex. There is no point dating a girl if she is not down to fuck. There is no need for numbers and dates if it doesn't get me laid.
• I want to improve efficiency but I don't know how to do so. The game is so time-consuming and can be exhausting. This was reinforced by this article: http://www.rooshv.com/how-to-get-a-flag-in-5-days-without-pipelining
• I lack confidence going out by myself, especially when everyone else is in a big group. I need to have more self-assurance and not care what others think of me.
• Focus. Let things slide to remain focused.
• When I meet a girl, start by smiling and good eye contact.

Friday 2 October

I inspected two houses today, although they were priced too high for what they offered.

I didn't go out tonight as I was tired and didn't have anyone to go out with. I wasn't in the mood too. I spent time researching Tinder, but not sure what the outcome will be.

It has been a week since the start. There have been no dates. It is not easy. I am spending a fair bit of time without getting anywhere. I will also start monitoring the time spent gaming.

Thursday 1 October

I went to a Meetup dinner and bingo today. I did some game before the meetup, but there were not many girls. Took a number from a Brazilian girl outside the bar, but found out later she has a boyfriend.

At the meetup there were twice as many guys as girls. I found out one girl I was interested in had a boyfriend.

I went to a salsa dancing club with a guy and two Chilean girls. Danced with one of the Chilean girls and took her number. It wasn't a strong close though.

Took a couple of numbers from girls on the train and near the train station, although they were not strong closes.

Lessons from today:

• The meetup was pretty fun, although I spent too much time there and only took one number out of it 
• Will need to do some dancing classes to improve my dancing skills
• Spent too much time in front of the computer. This doesn't bring me much happiness. I need to reduce my computer time.

Wednesday 30 September

I didn't do much game today.

I woke up late and spent most of my time playing soccer. Before I knew it, the day was over.

I talked to one girl who had a boyfriend, a group of two Swedish girls at a bar but they were not leading the conversation and they were going away so I left, and then a Thai girl outside a supermarket. Got a number from a Thai girl.

Lessons from today:

• Don't focus too much on getting laid. The process itself has to be enjoyable for me and fun for myself and the girls I meet.
• I need to allocate time to have opportunities to meet girls.

Tuesday 29 September

I am not happy with the lack of success with follow up game. It is a weak point. I haven’t had any dates from follow up game, only three insta-dates in the past three weeks. More numbers should equate to more opportunities to practice follow up game and line up dates.

I focused more on day game today. Came after with 5 number closes. However, I don't feel they were strong closes because one girl was kind of seeing someone, one girl just gave me her facebook, two were short interactions, and one was from a BBQ, but I am not that keen on her.

Lessons from today:

• Don’t let the girl walk away without closing. I approached two European girls and let them walk away after I had run out of things to say and they walked around the corner. I thought about chasing them and re-opening them. In hindsight, I should have stopped them before they walked away and asked for a number.
• Had a pretty good conversation with a girl at a train station. Her train came. I should have followed her into the train and said that I am catching the same train. I felt regret afterwards as she was gone and I might not see her again.

Monday 28 September

I started the day with day 2 of Headspace's Take 10. I felt more relaxed and less edgy after the mediation session. I had tension in my chest that eased after the meditation. It is still there while I am typing, although it is less acute than it was. I think the tension was caused my thinking about all the things I had to accomplish today.

My blog will now only focus on more notable approaches and what I learnt in the day. I may do a lot of approaches on a day and there may not be anything worthwhile that helps me moving forward. I think it's better to concentrate on 1) what lessons I learnt to get better and 2) what actions I need to take moving forward.

I was at a shopping centre today. I approached a group of two. I asked them a question and then waited a long time to re-engage. I did get a number but I am not sure how solid it is. I sent a text to her later but received no response.

Lessons from today:

• Always keep a straight back.
• Be more confident when approach a group. I was a bit timid in some approaches.
• I read about 'soft stroking', where I gently and lightly running my fingers over her skin starting with the hands, then moving up to the wrists, forearms, upper arms and shoulders, taking my time before moving higher. When she is comfortable with this, I caress her collarbone and neckline, rub her back and run my hand across the back of her neck. Afterwards, I put my nose on her ear and my face next to hers and run my lips over her neck and hair line, kissing her ear. Then go for the kiss.
• Approach like it is my job. Every day I am not getting laid is costing me $40 in rent and food. This is the opportunity cost as I would otherwise be living at home. I see sales guys approaching non-stop. I have to be like this.