Monday 28 September

I started the day with day 2 of Headspace's Take 10. I felt more relaxed and less edgy after the mediation session. I had tension in my chest that eased after the meditation. It is still there while I am typing, although it is less acute than it was. I think the tension was caused my thinking about all the things I had to accomplish today.

My blog will now only focus on more notable approaches and what I learnt in the day. I may do a lot of approaches on a day and there may not be anything worthwhile that helps me moving forward. I think it's better to concentrate on 1) what lessons I learnt to get better and 2) what actions I need to take moving forward.

I was at a shopping centre today. I approached a group of two. I asked them a question and then waited a long time to re-engage. I did get a number but I am not sure how solid it is. I sent a text to her later but received no response.

Lessons from today:

• Always keep a straight back.
• Be more confident when approach a group. I was a bit timid in some approaches.
• I read about 'soft stroking', where I gently and lightly running my fingers over her skin starting with the hands, then moving up to the wrists, forearms, upper arms and shoulders, taking my time before moving higher. When she is comfortable with this, I caress her collarbone and neckline, rub her back and run my hand across the back of her neck. Afterwards, I put my nose on her ear and my face next to hers and run my lips over her neck and hair line, kissing her ear. Then go for the kiss.
• Approach like it is my job. Every day I am not getting laid is costing me $40 in rent and food. This is the opportunity cost as I would otherwise be living at home. I see sales guys approaching non-stop. I have to be like this.