Up to October 17

Have one goal and that is to be better than yesterday.

Focus on conversion to dates and sex. Not on amount of numbers collected.

Lessons up to October 17:

• Always remember eye contact and smile when I approach.
• Talk slow like Bob Marley, and add some emotion.
• Express myself. Don't be stiff. 
• I need to focus on emotions. Currently I focus on what to say to the girl more than trying to have fun myself. 
• Have positive energy like the guy giving out high 5s. 
• Think about girls as sexual creatures (Lady Marmalade song). 
• Don't lean in. Stand up straight - think about a string on top of head.
• Be happy when dancing. Use the maracas hand move and smile. 
• When dancing, have fun first, Lightly grab girls hand. Ask can I dance with you?
• Buy a pendant to wear
• Agreeing too much. Sometimes disagree with her. What do you mean?
• Never give a girl power who has rejected you

Lessons from sales

• Be unfazed, keep going to the next lead, keep a positive attitude
• Follow a system (script)
• Keep a low, slow voice
• There are many new leads each day
• The quality of the leads matters (the setting where you meet the girl, how you are connected to her)

Saturday 3 October - Tuesday 7 October

I have no problems getting numbers. I can get around 4 numbers a day and have been doing so lately.

The problem is the conversion. There is so much time spent converting a number into a date and something more.

I had a date on Sunday but didn't feel it going anywhere. The girl didn't show enough interest and in turn, I was less interested. I will still try to pursue it further but I am not sure whether anything will come out of it.

A girl kissed me on the lips after I was chatting with her and her friend. I am not sure whether it was intentional. However, I wasn't interested in her.

Lessons:

• I want to qualify a girl for sex. There is no point dating a girl if she is not down to fuck. There is no need for numbers and dates if it doesn't get me laid.
• I want to improve efficiency but I don't know how to do so. The game is so time-consuming and can be exhausting. This was reinforced by this article: http://www.rooshv.com/how-to-get-a-flag-in-5-days-without-pipelining
• I lack confidence going out by myself, especially when everyone else is in a big group. I need to have more self-assurance and not care what others think of me.
• Focus. Let things slide to remain focused.
• When I meet a girl, start by smiling and good eye contact.

Friday 2 October

I inspected two houses today, although they were priced too high for what they offered.

I didn't go out tonight as I was tired and didn't have anyone to go out with. I wasn't in the mood too. I spent time researching Tinder, but not sure what the outcome will be.

It has been a week since the start. There have been no dates. It is not easy. I am spending a fair bit of time without getting anywhere. I will also start monitoring the time spent gaming.

Thursday 1 October

I went to a Meetup dinner and bingo today. I did some game before the meetup, but there were not many girls. Took a number from a Brazilian girl outside the bar, but found out later she has a boyfriend.

At the meetup there were twice as many guys as girls. I found out one girl I was interested in had a boyfriend.

I went to a salsa dancing club with a guy and two Chilean girls. Danced with one of the Chilean girls and took her number. It wasn't a strong close though.

Took a couple of numbers from girls on the train and near the train station, although they were not strong closes.

Lessons from today:

• The meetup was pretty fun, although I spent too much time there and only took one number out of it 
• Will need to do some dancing classes to improve my dancing skills
• Spent too much time in front of the computer. This doesn't bring me much happiness. I need to reduce my computer time.

Wednesday 30 September

I didn't do much game today.

I woke up late and spent most of my time playing soccer. Before I knew it, the day was over.

I talked to one girl who had a boyfriend, a group of two Swedish girls at a bar but they were not leading the conversation and they were going away so I left, and then a Thai girl outside a supermarket. Got a number from a Thai girl.

Lessons from today:

• Don't focus too much on getting laid. The process itself has to be enjoyable for me and fun for myself and the girls I meet.
• I need to allocate time to have opportunities to meet girls.

Tuesday 29 September

I am not happy with the lack of success with follow up game. It is a weak point. I haven’t had any dates from follow up game, only three insta-dates in the past three weeks. More numbers should equate to more opportunities to practice follow up game and line up dates.

I focused more on day game today. Came after with 5 number closes. However, I don't feel they were strong closes because one girl was kind of seeing someone, one girl just gave me her facebook, two were short interactions, and one was from a BBQ, but I am not that keen on her.

Lessons from today:

• Don’t let the girl walk away without closing. I approached two European girls and let them walk away after I had run out of things to say and they walked around the corner. I thought about chasing them and re-opening them. In hindsight, I should have stopped them before they walked away and asked for a number.
• Had a pretty good conversation with a girl at a train station. Her train came. I should have followed her into the train and said that I am catching the same train. I felt regret afterwards as she was gone and I might not see her again.

Monday 28 September

I started the day with day 2 of Headspace's Take 10. I felt more relaxed and less edgy after the mediation session. I had tension in my chest that eased after the meditation. It is still there while I am typing, although it is less acute than it was. I think the tension was caused my thinking about all the things I had to accomplish today.

My blog will now only focus on more notable approaches and what I learnt in the day. I may do a lot of approaches on a day and there may not be anything worthwhile that helps me moving forward. I think it's better to concentrate on 1) what lessons I learnt to get better and 2) what actions I need to take moving forward.

I was at a shopping centre today. I approached a group of two. I asked them a question and then waited a long time to re-engage. I did get a number but I am not sure how solid it is. I sent a text to her later but received no response.

Lessons from today:

• Always keep a straight back.
• Be more confident when approach a group. I was a bit timid in some approaches.
• I read about 'soft stroking', where I gently and lightly running my fingers over her skin starting with the hands, then moving up to the wrists, forearms, upper arms and shoulders, taking my time before moving higher. When she is comfortable with this, I caress her collarbone and neckline, rub her back and run my hand across the back of her neck. Afterwards, I put my nose on her ear and my face next to hers and run my lips over her neck and hair line, kissing her ear. Then go for the kiss.
• Approach like it is my job. Every day I am not getting laid is costing me $40 in rent and food. This is the opportunity cost as I would otherwise be living at home. I see sales guys approaching non-stop. I have to be like this.

Sunday 27 September

Today marks Day 1 of my game diaries.

I was away for over a week and just returned to Brisbane. I have my own room now so I have the space to write and the logistics for game.

I started the first day in my own room with day 1 of a 10 day meditation session with Headspace. After the 10 minute session I felt much better. I had a tightness at the back of my head, which went away after the meditation. I also felt less tired afterwards.

I walked to New Farm Park to exercise. I did two short approaches on the way asking how far away the parks was, although I was not interested in the girls after approaching them.

After exercising, I met a blonde girl working as an ecologist. She is a bit older than I usually like. Had a good chat with her. Asked if she wants to hang out sometime, she said that she isn't in the right space to hang out.

I had a long walk down the river side, met a girl walking her large dog. She was pretty fit and was doing a 10km lap. I asked when the walk ended. We had a good chat, although she said that she had a boyfriend when I asked her out.

I asked for directions from a girl who was on her phone. She sounded Scottish. Wasn't keen on her so left it.

When I was walking home from dinner I came across a bar called Eleven. Went up. The crowd was mainly older. I spotted a group of three girls. I introduced myself, although they weren't in the mood. They were a bit dull. I had to lead the conversation and I had pretty low energy myself. Sometimes they would chat among themselves, but I couldn't hear them because they spoke softly. Afterwards, I would out the girl I liked had a boyfriend, so didn't pursue it further.

Complimented another girl for her straight back. Had a good chat with her. She was also from Melbourne. I then had a chat with the guy she was with. He didn't seem too interested even though he was in the property sector too.

I talked to a group of three, slightly older girls. There was a guy already talking to them. Introduced myself. They weren't that keen. Had a conversation. Spotted them outside the bar and asked the girl I liked for her number and she said no.

Had a quick chat with a girl waiting outside. Her mum came to pick her up shortly aftewards. Asked for her number and she said no.

Actions moving forward:

• I should have moved closer and said I couldn't hear the girls talking or asked the girls to speak up when I couldn't hear them. I couldn't join in their conversation when they were talking.
• Felt a bit down because a girl didn't respond to my text. I understand there is going to a lot of failure before I become good at this. There will be a lot of emotional highs and lows. Right now I am just starting out.

Friday 4 September - Monday 7 September

Friday 4 September

I arrive in Brisbane airport.

While waiting for luggage, I spot a brunette and stand next to her. Her name is Libby and she looks Greek. I open her and she tells me she is studying in Melbourne here for the weekend for her dad's birthday. I ask for her number and she gives it to me.

I buy a focaccia from a cafe from a blonde waitress, Chloe, who looks like a surfer. I asked her to heat half of my focaccia up. Afterwards, I tell her it's nice heated up. I ask for her number and she gives it to me on a napkin.

I didn't feel that confident in the two numbers.

I check into my hostel and am staying with 3 people from the UK. We went to the bar later and they are big drinkers. They can easily down 12 pints. I had a short night as I was tired from moving tree branches.

Saturday 5 September

Went out to Southbank on a ferry with an Italian couple.

I texted Libby twice. No response.

I texted Chloe and got a reply saying it's a wrong number.

I opened a girl, Bec, from Toowoomba who was shopping for father's day. We had a 10 minute chat and walked around the Saturday markets. I got her number early. We looked for gifts. She didn't find anything and had to leave.

I opened Morgan, blonde girl who was sunburnt, while watching an impromptu swing dancing session. She was also travelling. I asked for her number but she didn't know it. I asked for her Facebook, but her profile didn't allow me to add her as a friend. She took my number instead. I messaged her on Facebook later but no reply. Not sure if she would have seen the message.

I had an insta-date with Natalie. She was tall blonde au-pair from Germany who had just finished school. I suggested we get a drink. After a short walk, she suggested ice cream. I didn't feel a connection with her when we were having ice-cream. I tried teasing her on her Daniel Wellington watch, but I didn't know much about the watch, and she didn't react well. The date was amicable. We had a walk to the artificial beach where she said she had to go, I asked for her number afterwards and she gave it. Don't think I will contact her again.

Sunday 6 Septemeber

Talked to a girl in the supermarket. Told her I am buying apples. Had a laugh. She has a boyfriend.

Monday 7 September

Talk to a Brazillian girl in the bus. Ask her what book she's reading then talk about her learning English and Brazil. Pleasant conversation. She has reached her stop before I know it. Quickly ask for her number. She says no.

Ask a girl for directions to the library. She doesn't know. She is smiling when I talk to her. Ask her to catch up another time and she says no.

I stopped a girl inside the library and ask her where I can find desks. Ask for her number and she says she has a boyfriend.

Sat next to a girl on her laptop. She is studying law. Asked for number upfront and says she has a boyfriend.

Approach a girl on her phone outside the library asking if it water comes out of the fountain. Use the fountain to wash my hands. Then return and tell her it works and ask her name. She says Emma and then says she has to go. Probably should have smiled and stated my intent by telling her I thought she was cute.

Walk down the mall and see a girl sitting on a bench. Tell her I like her bleached blonde hair. On closer inspection I don't like it. Sit beside her. She is studying law too. She has to go to her appointment. Asked for number and she says no. Should have had better posture, display more confidence in an open body.

Stop a girl walking in the mall. Say I like her orange hair. She is smiling a lot. She gives me directions to the library. Tells me she has a boyfriend when I ask for her number.

Sit down next to a girl in the food court. Say she looks like a girl from my hostel. She gets up to leave says something about her dad and doesn't give me her number.

Open a blonde UK girl in the shopping mall. Asked whether she wanted to catch up sometime. She said no. Felt down as I had opened a few girls. State quite low and I thought I will give it some time before opening again.

Spotted a girl in the library shortly afterwards. Thought I'd have one more go. I said I thought that she's cute. She said she was flattered but has a boyfriend.